Perhaps some rabbis marry women and make them rebbetzinsbut my rebbetzin married me and made me a rabbiשלי ושלכם שלה הואmawkish, but true
You must have misheard:CONGREGANT: That was passionate.CHAZZAN: I have things to do today!
I'm in the process of saying Kaddish for my mom, and I'm attending a number of nearby minyanim in order to do so every day. The chazzan where I was on Sunday morning - a shul where the usual pace is quite brisk - set some kind of land speed record.
Sorry to hear of your loss.I wouldn't be troubled by the speed, if not for the attitude that davening is a speedbump rather than a destination.