Thursday, May 1, 2008

Derashah: Kedoshim - Burqa Sexuality vs. Torah Sexuality

A few months ago, headlines in Israel reported a new clothing trend in Ramat Beit Shemesh: The Burqa. According to published news reports, followers of a self-styled Rabbanit had chosen to wear Burqas, veiling themselves so that only their eyes were visible.

The women involved said that they adopted this fashion for several reasons: To reduce their attractiveness to men, to hide their sexuality, and to help them separate from the material world.

This approach may well have special appeal in certain communities in Israel today as so many walls have come down over the past several years, through Charedi army units, through the spread of the Internet, through increased departure of disillusioned youth from those communities, and from the recent deaths of the leaders of the past generation.

But, ultimately, the burqa is not what the Torah recommends. The reports sparked a mixture of hostility and revulsion in Jews across the religious spectrum, because the practice seems antithetical to Jewish ideals. But the whole story raised an interesting question for me: Why doesn’t Judaism require the burqa, or something like it, for men and women?

Certainly, we could answer glibly by saying that it’s because Judaism doesn’t want us to go to extremes - but that answer is inadequate, since much of the world already thinks we go to extremes. “Extreme” generally means, “more than I do,” and so it’s a meaningless phrase - and so I’d like to know why Judaism does not prescribe the burqa, or an equivalent, for men and women.

Let’s start with a bottom-up approach, understanding the philosophy behind the rules Judaism does make, in order to explain those practices it does not support. To my mind, Judaism’s governance of sexuality is based on three concerns: Abuse, Paganism and Sanctity.

First, Abuse: From the beginning of the Torah, sexual desire led to abuse of other human beings.

Lemech marries two wives, Adah and Tzilah. The name “Adah” means “pregnant.” The name “Tzilah” means beauty. Per many commentators, Lemech intended to use one wife for bearing children and the other would be a trophy - this is the first case in which a woman is treated as an object, rather than a human being.

And it deteriorates from there. When HaShem decides to bring a Flood, the event which puts Him over the top in judgment is the antediluvian practice of powerful men kidnapping women for themselves. At that point HaShem says, “I won’t put up with this,” and He declares He is going to destroy the world.

Contrast that with the Torah’s strong anti-violence, anti-abuse stance. HaShem recognized that this powerful drive can inspire abuse of other human beings, and so He was determined to provide protection in the Torah.

The second motive is Paganism: The cultures surrounding the Jews in the Torah are all identified by their sexual behavior.

• Egypt is known in the Torah as a place in which sexuality was primary, from the time when Avraham and Sarah are concerned that Sarah will be kidnapped to the attempts of Egyptian slavemasters to violate what the Haggadah politely calls דרך ארץ, the way of the land, with their Jewish slaves.

• The Philistines were also criticized for their focus on sexuality; Avraham said of them, “I know that there is no awe of Gd here, and they will kill me to take my wife.”

• The people of Sdom sought to take Lot’s guests out and “know” them.

• Midian tried to lure the Jews into sexual liasons as a way to get them into idolatry, and succeeded even in ensnaring Zimri ben Salu, head of the tribe of Shimon.

• The Canaanite cults established the קדישה, a woman who would be available for use in the temples, sometimes as part of a ritual and sometimes not.

As the Rambam explained, HaShem assigned us strict laws of conduct in the Torah in order to help us create our own society, differentiating ourselves from these nations we had historically known.

And the third motive is Sanctity: Sexual activity offers a unique opportunity for us to partner with HaShem in Creation.

In Gan Eden, the serpent promised Chavah that if she would eat from the fruit, she would become כאלקים, Gd-like. As Rashi there explained, Chavah sought to become a creator of worlds, just as HaShem was a creator of worlds. This promise was fulfilled - human beings did, indeed, become creators, by bearing children.

Procreation is not just a mechanical deed; rather, it is the ultimate partnership between Man and Gd, the joining of physical matter with spiritual souls to usher a new life, a new neshamah, into Olam haZeh. In fact, the first Lubavitcher Rebbe, in his Tanya, contended that our involvement in creating life is so great that the thoughts of a man and woman while mating will affect the type of soul they will invite into this world.

And so, to invest this Divine partnership with the ultimate sanctity, HaShem legislated closely the way we could use our power.

The Torah’s practical laws of sexuality, including the 22 different mitzvos outlined in this parshah and last, and various other mitzvos from around the Torah, are about providing protection, creating a unique coluture, and promoting sanctity as we create human life.

• We safeguard against most abuse by preventing the situations in which it takes place. We have laws of yichud, preventing a man and woman from being secluded together, unless they are husband and wife. Our laws prevent mixed situations like dancing and swimming which might encourage improper attraction. And we have severe punishments for sexual crime, under which a rapist caught in the act may be killed.

• We build up our own culture by staying away from the behaviors that marked pagan societies. The Temple קדישה, and all such hiring, is banned. The types of dressing, and cross-dressing, in which pagan priests participated, are off-limits. The non-procreative sexual practices of those societies are prohibited as well.

• We sanctify our procreation with a sexual life that focusses on the Divine. At certain times, with certain partners, in a manner prescribed in the Torah, we reach the goal of bringing life into the world in partnership with HaShem.

If the burqa is about fear - fear of society’s invasion, or about fear of a decline in personal morality - then the Torah approach, the tzanua approach, should be about strength - our strength in preventing abuse, our strength in building ourselves into a unique community, and our strength in creating the next Jewish generation in a sacred way.

A stable, strong fealty to the Torah’s laws of tzniut will ensure that we fulfill Michah’s mandate, הצנע לכת עם אלקיך - to walk securely, privately, in holiness, and to do so with HaShem.

1. I came away from this feeling incomplete; there is something I still haven't said, that I want to say. I think it's an expansion of Tznius, as a biblical concept. I may yet come back to this before Shabbos. The problem is that I'm working on a new class series, also for Shabbos, on "The Halachah of Pirkei Avos," examining the way Pirkei Avos has been quoted in rabbinic responsa. Should be very interesting, but the prep is very time-consuming. And derashos are never comprehensive, anyway.

2. For more on the Burqa fad, see Mom in Israel here and Jameel here.


  1. Thanks for the link. I enjoyed your post. Except for the face-covering, though, these women are convinced that they are dressing the way their ancestors did. And to some extent they're probably right. They certainly didn't dress the way women in Bnei Brak do today. The Torah isn't very specific about how women should dress.

  2. Please see Rav Yisrael Rozen's article in Tzomet's "Shabbat bShabbato" entitled, נבָלות בחסות התורה

    Shabbat Shalom.

  3. thank you for taking on this issue. I have found these incidents very disturbing on so many levels. I have always seen tzniut within the context of drawing less attention to oneself, not putting yourself on display (physically). This has always seemed somewhat problematic though, since dressing outside the norm (long skirts in the summer, when others are wearing shorts) can often draw attention to you anyway. But I also understand that there are certain areas which require covering, so that you have to strike a balance, figure out a way to cover without drawing extra attention to yourself.

    The idea of a burqua, obviously does the opposite. and I have to wonder if that is somehow part of this trend. That while the women who do it want to remain seperate they at the same time want to draw attention to themselves, to prove to others something about their own observance, maybe even justifing the hubris of "I am more stringent than you".

    I also find it interesting that within the Haredi community, even tzniut has finally gone too far. This is a community (or many communities) that has for a long time based its opinion of its women on how they dress. Maybe this is one way for these women to reestablish control over their lives, which they feel has been taken away or controlled by outside sources. Similar to how women with eating disorders take 1 aspect of their lives (food intake) and use it to reaccert control when they feel cornered or trapped.

  4. Mother in Israel-
    Are they really convinced of that? The interviews offered so many other motivations, I have to wonder.

    I didn't want to explore where the sect went in the end, lest I distract from the main point - but yes, the article is interesting.

    The control issue rings right here to me, moreso than the frummer-than-thou approach. The women interviewed seem so driven to prove something to themselves, rather than to others.

  5. The book that has been quoted by most of these women, and not just Keren follwers but all of the shawl-wearers, contains many old pictures of women from various Jewish communities wearing layers of head coverings, cloaks, aprons, and more. The book is extremely influential. It's hard to say what the main motivation is but I believe this aspect is significant.

  6. I thought that book's accuracy (existence?) had not been verified?

  7. I guess when people take it into their own hands, make up their own chumras, we should be suspect. I'm always assuming it's okay, go for it, be as spiritual as you can, as you want to be. But when it's about separation, that's when we have to be especially careful. Separation isn't what Jews are about.

    The better shul board meetings have women chiming in.

  8. Mother in Israel-
    Are they available in general?

    From what I have seen - in others and in myself - chumra is often a cover for psychological and emotional issues.

  9. TRH--I believe they are currently unavailable until the next reprint.