tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7898782635470765614.post6585458053712129112..comments2023-09-11T17:58:13.764-04:00Comments on The Rebbetzin's Husband: What I learned from a High School program at the RCA ConventionThe Rebbetzin's Husbandhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14977193945074906534noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7898782635470765614.post-85914619697746671322010-04-28T08:16:59.788-04:002010-04-28T08:16:59.788-04:00G6-
Thanks! Checked it out and commented there...
...G6-<br />Thanks! Checked it out and commented there...<br /><br />Laya-<br />Yup<br /><br />Joel-<br />Agreed, but surely there is a middle ground<br /><br />Joseph-<br />I hear; thanks.The Rebbetzin's Husbandhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14977193945074906534noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7898782635470765614.post-84436091171313005662010-04-27T13:58:39.056-04:002010-04-27T13:58:39.056-04:00Re: the "I'm not cool enough" issue,...Re: the "I'm not cool enough" issue, I think you have a lot more of a shot with teenagers than you think. I'm not an adolescent psychologist, so my observations are purely subjective, but they are based on my own experience with teenagers (I taught in high school before and was occasionally involved in youth groups). I think that a large part of the "coolness" of adolescents is being "with it." The "cool" kids are familiar parts of the adult world that still appeal to the "kid" in them (sports, movies...). From what I recall from your derashos and personal conversations, you know all of these things. Second, I was able to build rapport with teenagers by being actively engaged with what they are doing or are concerned about, even if I didn't know much about it (I simply listened and learned from them). Simply starting conversations can help with that ("what did you guys think of the movie," "how was the game,")... And apparently, the kids related to you enough to open up about some very personal things.Josephnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7898782635470765614.post-5181352315321550732010-04-27T11:49:27.357-04:002010-04-27T11:49:27.357-04:00I'm out of that parsha now but IMHO there is a...I'm out of that parsha now but IMHO there is also something to be lost by helicopter parenting, if you don't give kids a chance to fail, they will imho never learn to succeed. Finding venues to limit the downside is important, taking away any chance can be counterproductive imho.<br />KT<br />Joel RichAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7898782635470765614.post-17565903564838889802010-04-27T09:32:19.765-04:002010-04-27T09:32:19.765-04:00A tiny part of the picture, but one many teens don...A tiny part of the picture, but one many teens don't seem to get, is that other people will gain access to their online personalities. I know of two girls turned down by seminaries for the content and connections of their Facebook pages.<br /><br />According to my twenty-something classmates, the fact that my kids allow me to 'friend' them on facebook mean they aren't getting in trouble. I hope that they are right.Layanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7898782635470765614.post-72974274824871437312010-04-27T07:24:35.609-04:002010-04-27T07:24:35.609-04:00RH -
You got me thinking about parental and "...RH -<br />You got me thinking about parental and "village" responsibility in these most challenging times.<br />I <a href="http://guesswhoscoming2dinner.blogspot.com/2010/04/what-would-you-do.html" rel="nofollow">linked you</a> in my most recent post.<br />I'm curious what you think....G6https://www.blogger.com/profile/15932781801654313054noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7898782635470765614.post-3819176074375983542010-04-26T18:20:40.296-04:002010-04-26T18:20:40.296-04:00G6-
Very true. If we don't think our children ...G6-<br />Very true. If we don't think our children are ready for this power, handing it to them is criminally irresponsible.<br /><br />Neil-<br />I wish I did; I'm looking for advice myself.<br /><br />Jeremy-<br />True that there's more I can do now, although I do think HS kids would be open to the right approach from the shul rabbi.<br />Re: Rafi and House - Yes, we've connected, although we don't yet have a specific plan. Thanks for the thought.The Rebbetzin's Husbandhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14977193945074906534noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7898782635470765614.post-51180866843630946642010-04-26T15:49:04.183-04:002010-04-26T15:49:04.183-04:00Being slightly closer to High School, I think that...Being slightly closer to High School, I think that you can actually do it much better in your current position.<br /><br />You can offer the kids something that they've never seen before (i.e. Torah) and they might give you a chance (a few seconds before they make up their mind). What kind of HS kid hangs out with his shul rabbi? That doesn't even get off the ground.<br /><br />Have you connected with Rafi Lipner and his house there yet? It's kids a little older than HS, but probably the same types of issues.Jeremynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7898782635470765614.post-28400251039173032992010-04-26T12:55:36.570-04:002010-04-26T12:55:36.570-04:00Great and important posting.
What's just as in...Great and important posting.<br />What's just as interesting is that some parents would plotz if they read/saw what their teens put of Facebook...<br /><br />Do you have any advice for those who are adults and interact with today's teens.Neil Harrishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12797772082427806345noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7898782635470765614.post-36738288282383616122010-04-26T12:55:10.725-04:002010-04-26T12:55:10.725-04:00Parents of today have to be vigilant in "know...Parents of today have to be vigilant in "knowing" their children.<br />If they are permitting their children ownership of these items - they should be familiar with the content of their children's ipods and they should have access to text histories. (I am sorry to say that it is the more Chareidi parents who allow these devices that are the most clueless. I myself have struggled with the dilemma as to whether or not it was my resposibility to "clue them in" to their own children....)<br />This is a not a time for parents to be uneducated about technology or lazy about parental control and involvement.<br />It is not fair to one's children to love them less.G6https://www.blogger.com/profile/15932781801654313054noreply@blogger.com