tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7898782635470765614.post5307295846215651113..comments2023-09-11T17:58:13.764-04:00Comments on The Rebbetzin's Husband: What happens at a Jewish wedding?The Rebbetzin's Husbandhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14977193945074906534noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7898782635470765614.post-1359727820087235632010-02-11T00:11:46.718-05:002010-02-11T00:11:46.718-05:00Anonymous -
Thanks! I appreciate it.Anonymous -<br />Thanks! I appreciate it.The Rebbetzin's Husbandhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14977193945074906534noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7898782635470765614.post-66148590500624614232010-02-10T21:02:00.648-05:002010-02-10T21:02:00.648-05:00I enjoy your blogs and your open-minded and open-h...I enjoy your blogs and your open-minded and open-hearted energy when you write and respond to comments! Thanks.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7898782635470765614.post-76712014042374969982008-12-14T16:17:00.000-05:002008-12-14T16:17:00.000-05:00ProfK-I didn't mention it because I am not sure of...ProfK-<BR/>I didn't mention it because I am not sure of the different minhagim. I've seen several different things done with the veil, and I'm not sure which are minhagim and which are ignorance. So I left it alone - but I agree that this should be developed.<BR/><BR/>LOZ-<BR/>I always use the RCA pre-nup, but that's before the wedding. I really don't recommend handling this during the chasan's tish!<BR/>Re: Yichud - I'll have to look into it.<BR/><BR/>mirskym-<BR/>I hinted at the fast, but I didn't mention it (like the prenup above) because it isn't of the wedding itself.<BR/>Re: Explaining what happens in the Yichud room - Good point; thanks.The Rebbetzin's Husbandhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14977193945074906534noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7898782635470765614.post-14957407376728706422008-12-14T12:51:00.000-05:002008-12-14T12:51:00.000-05:00This might sound outlandish, but I've heard it ask...This might sound outlandish, but I've heard it asked what happens in the yichud room. It might be shocking that some people even ask, but it might be worth mentioning that the chasan and kallah break their fast (and leave it at that). BTW I don't think you mentioned the minhag (halacha?) to fast on that day.mirskymhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09169273326827222473noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7898782635470765614.post-10813570685053848912008-12-14T02:04:00.000-05:002008-12-14T02:04:00.000-05:00RH:1) no RCA prenupt?2) perhaps he told her to giv...RH:<BR/><BR/>1) no RCA prenupt?<BR/><BR/>2) perhaps he told her to give the ketubbah to her mom because it would be an ayin ha-ra to keep it at home?<BR/>(incidentally, the mesader kedushin who married us didn't approve of making the ketubbah into a piece of artwork that people display. )<BR/><BR/>3) "so I'm surprised to hear of Sephardim who don't do it"<BR/><BR/>i thought that the accepted sephardi minhag is not to do it. those who do it only do so as a result of the ashkenazation of their world.<BR/><BR/>i'm surprised you didn't hear about it, as h. ovadia yosef's son got into some trouble last year with his comments on the the practice.<BR/><BR/>t. hayyim david halevi, on the other hand, has a more sensitive teshuvah on the matter, but then again he was a very sensitive rav.Lion of Zionhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10342299133387602141noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7898782635470765614.post-64521093647554554862008-12-13T22:31:00.000-05:002008-12-13T22:31:00.000-05:00Concise description of what goes on, but you've le...Concise description of what goes on, but you've left something out of the Bedecken. The Yiddish word out of the German word bedeckung is "to cover up." I believe that the tradition is that when the choson is brought in front of the kallah he covers her face with a veil. She is then not uncovered again until the chupah is complete, although I have seen it done that the choson checks once quickly under the veil when the kallah arrives at the chupah. Otherwise why call this part of the wedding bedecken?ProfKhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17954446826821665314noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7898782635470765614.post-19792295341607262252008-12-13T19:06:00.000-05:002008-12-13T19:06:00.000-05:00FA-Yes... when I have time...Risa-That's fascinati...FA-<BR/>Yes... when I have time...<BR/><BR/>Risa-<BR/>That's fascinating! I'd be very curious to know the origins of those different practices. The yichud one is particularly interesting - it really comes from a concern for the Rambam's position on how marriage is effected, so I'm surprised to hear of Sephardim who don't do it.<BR/>As far as the ketubah recommendation - if you have any way to contact the mesader, please do so. That sounds like such interesting advice, I'd love to know the source.The Rebbetzin's Husbandhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14977193945074906534noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7898782635470765614.post-1165200840391903972008-12-13T15:20:00.000-05:002008-12-13T15:20:00.000-05:00Nicely done and very inclusive. A few points from ...Nicely done and very inclusive. A few points from our 4 (so far) weddings. Our first set of machetunim - the father was from a Yekkish (German-Jewish) background said 'we don't break plates' so we didn't (although of course at the chuppa my son did break the glass). <BR/>My daughter married a Sephardi and we didn't circle the groom at all. In addition they don't do yichud so although the couple did go off by themselves to a room, no witnesses checked or stood there and they did not lock the door (in other words it was not ashkenazi yichud). The third really different thing about that wedding was mesader kiddushin told my daughter to give me the ketuba and that I should take it home with me and she should never have to look at it! I have it in the same drawer where mine is, but somehow it doesn't feel right.Risa Tzoharhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05012097234847651866noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7898782635470765614.post-9155005043837545832008-12-12T14:58:00.000-05:002008-12-12T14:58:00.000-05:00many details of wedding customs come from the zoha...many details of wedding customs come from the zohar's description of how god "married off" adam and eve. the proof is -- even non jews (in the western world, at least) use many of our customs / procedures.<BR/><BR/>another intersting post would be the different (jewish) customs you allude to in this post.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7898782635470765614.post-45464561784179519012008-12-11T14:43:00.000-05:002008-12-11T14:43:00.000-05:00Neil, Tzupporah- Thanks! I do go for simplicity in...Neil, Tzupporah- Thanks! I do go for simplicity in these things.The Rebbetzin's Husbandhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14977193945074906534noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7898782635470765614.post-48941685723726949942008-12-11T12:54:00.000-05:002008-12-11T12:54:00.000-05:00Nice and concise. Although we used an alternative ...Nice and concise. Although we used an alternative ceremony (Rachel Adler's Brit Ahuvim, based on partnership law, instead of acquisition law), we had to make a 4-page program to explain all the Jewish bits to the guests, most of whom - even the Jewish ones - had never been to a wedding with the sheva brachot, circling, or ketubah.Tzipporahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08807511259582331073noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7898782635470765614.post-51775079818248172812008-12-11T11:48:00.000-05:002008-12-11T11:48:00.000-05:00Much less intimidating than reading R Aryeh Kaplan...Much less intimidating than reading R Aryeh Kaplan's MADE IN HEAVEN (which is great, but it's a bit thick).Neil Harrishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12797772082427806345noreply@blogger.com