tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7898782635470765614.post9213221535448445068..comments2023-09-11T17:58:13.764-04:00Comments on The Rebbetzin's Husband: Children in ShulThe Rebbetzin's Husbandhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14977193945074906534noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7898782635470765614.post-61443695091415615742014-10-20T23:07:49.743-04:002014-10-20T23:07:49.743-04:00i find it hard to believe in the shul near my home...i find it hard to believe in the shul near my home it says on the wall that if your children misbeaves in schul you will be punished and your children will die.I know repect is important but to die sounds crazyAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7898782635470765614.post-27734976392506381432009-06-03T13:58:42.929-04:002009-06-03T13:58:42.929-04:00That 3-5 approach does sound good. As they get old...That 3-5 approach does sound good. As they get older, though, I'd want those who are capable of understanding to be in shul itself.The Rebbetzin's Husbandhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14977193945074906534noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7898782635470765614.post-43751912492254961722009-06-03T10:45:06.406-04:002009-06-03T10:45:06.406-04:00I'm very grateful that Blondini Boy is perfect...I'm very grateful that Blondini Boy is perfectly content sitting quietly next to me, while occasionally running outside to play with his friends. If, upon re-entry, he forgets to keep his voice down, he is gently reminded or re-exited until he can quiet down. Works for us.<br /><br />In our neighborhood, there is a rotation of families hosting תפילת ילדים (Children's prayer) in our houses, for 3-5 year olds, timed to coincide with Torah reading. It's a great solution for a small community.<br /><br />In general, Israeli shuls are much more kid-friendly, which has its pluses and minuses, of course.A Living Nadneydahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14365370597831368062noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7898782635470765614.post-62307260076134877292009-05-25T17:58:58.819-04:002009-05-25T17:58:58.819-04:00R' Mordechai-
Glad to hear it.
Fruma-
Thanks, and...R' Mordechai-<br />Glad to hear it.<br /><br />Fruma-<br />Thanks, and the receptivity of the shul is, indeed, crucial.The Rebbetzin's Husbandhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14977193945074906534noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7898782635470765614.post-33253294238443716652009-05-25T16:20:15.033-04:002009-05-25T16:20:15.033-04:00Excellent rules & congratulations (especially ...Excellent rules & congratulations (especially to the rebbetzin) on being able to handle FOUR kids in shul -- especially from beginning to end! When our third was born, we had to stop going completely for a while because it got to be too hard to do until they got older.<br /><br />For a while, I took our eldest by myself and was careful about which shuls we attended, making sure that the congregation was both welcoming to us and serious about davening. The tone set by the congregation will affect children's behavior (and long-term feelings about shul) as well.Frumanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7898782635470765614.post-88943610397399429602009-05-25T10:17:27.635-04:002009-05-25T10:17:27.635-04:00"Did you find that she took advantage, or did she ..."Did you find that she took advantage, or did she understand that this was not a good thing?"<br /><br />Both, as one might expect of a child her age. The learning process was important though. Sometimes I would get up and say we have to go out now, and she would cry and resist, and I would have to emphasize this wasn't punishment, rather a move to a place appropriate for the behaviour. But I would also have to insist that we leave for now. She did get a clear picture of required behaviour in the beit knesset. That came through years later.Mordechai Y. Scherhttp://www.kolberamah.orgnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7898782635470765614.post-81207929316201187442009-05-25T09:29:14.589-04:002009-05-25T09:29:14.589-04:00Moshe-
Good to hear. I won't bring any of mine, no...Moshe-<br />Good to hear. I won't bring any of mine, not even the oldest, at this time of year. Gd-willing next year I'll start the oldest on it.<br /><br />R' Mordechai-<br />Did you find that she took advantage, or did she understand that this was not a good thing?<br /><br />SephardiLady-<br />Thanks! I am honored.The Rebbetzin's Husbandhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14977193945074906534noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7898782635470765614.post-36655765248722857152009-05-24T21:02:00.568-04:002009-05-24T21:02:00.568-04:00Great post! I'm going to link.Great post! I'm going to link.Orthonomicshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07892074485262548496noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7898782635470765614.post-32573994108347173222009-05-24T19:58:13.396-04:002009-05-24T19:58:13.396-04:00Great post, thanks!
In Ramat Eshkol, my then 4 ye...Great post, thanks!<br /><br />In Ramat Eshkol, my then 4 year old would come to shul with me. Back up plan was simple. If she was disruptive, WE went to play outside. Not as punishment I always told her, just in recognition that right now she doesn't want to behave in the manner required in shul. I understood that if I bring my child to shul, she is my responsibility even if I miss out on davenning with the minyan.<br /><br />It worked pretty well; and yes, there were plenty of occasions when we had to go out to the play area or the park.Mordechai Y. Scherhttp://www.kolberamah.orgnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7898782635470765614.post-57271034432958451932009-05-24T15:18:52.016-04:002009-05-24T15:18:52.016-04:00Last Friday, great. Plus, 15 minutes there and ba...Last Friday, great. Plus, 15 minutes there and back.Ookamikunhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01145237927656807738noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7898782635470765614.post-43909303434437945722009-05-24T15:00:05.842-04:002009-05-24T15:00:05.842-04:00Mother in Israel, Shorty-
Thanks!
Moshe-
Exactly ...Mother in Israel, Shorty-<br />Thanks!<br /><br />Moshe-<br />Exactly what I'm talking about. How does he do on late Friday nights?The Rebbetzin's Husbandhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14977193945074906534noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7898782635470765614.post-86129888926174552802009-05-24T09:40:41.440-04:002009-05-24T09:40:41.440-04:00I bring my 3 year old to shul Friday Night. Not m...I bring my 3 year old to shul Friday Night. Not many other kids are there so he sits quietly and eats his snack. For day, only when my wife or mother is upstairs.Ookamikunhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01145237927656807738noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7898782635470765614.post-27411886492216387252009-05-24T07:58:56.897-04:002009-05-24T07:58:56.897-04:00ditto on the great post!ditto on the great post!Shortyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05195198876287540850noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7898782635470765614.post-50219534139527866992009-05-24T04:11:39.567-04:002009-05-24T04:11:39.567-04:00Great post! I linked to it.Great post! I linked to it.mother in israelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13715046177293916034noreply@blogger.com