tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7898782635470765614.post71028756986245562..comments2023-09-11T17:58:13.764-04:00Comments on The Rebbetzin's Husband: Drinking on PurimThe Rebbetzin's Husbandhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14977193945074906534noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7898782635470765614.post-79811797361353699642014-03-16T00:18:29.309-04:002014-03-16T00:18:29.309-04:00Vanguard-
You're free to disagree, of course. ...Vanguard-<br />You're free to disagree, of course. I envy your certainty.The Rebbetzin's Husbandhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14977193945074906534noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7898782635470765614.post-8791548034861667382014-03-13T21:48:20.195-04:002014-03-13T21:48:20.195-04:00Dear Husband,
Among your words you say,
"I b...Dear Husband,<br /><br />Among your words you say,<br />"I believe adults should not drink on Purim in the presence of young children"<br /><br />Had this been a worry of our sages, they'd have warned us. I, for one, as a father of 4, think you're dead wrong. Of course it depends on who is doing the drinking - and why. It depends on the person behind the boozing; If he's drinking it "up", or drinking it "down". A good parent will know, although he fulfils the Purim halachah, he knows too that he's a model for the small ones to follow. Seeing a father drink it up for the sake of Purim is the mitzvah, man! Hashem doesn't want you to drink it up in a closet and then expose yourself as a drunkard; He wants you to think of Purim, what it means, why we should drink on this holiest of days (that even Yom Kippur huddles in its shadows), so children should learn in the process. And, of course, it doesn't hurt to have some fun at the same time!!in the vanguardhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11796434751654291581noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7898782635470765614.post-90325264886436797292014-03-13T18:41:15.297-04:002014-03-13T18:41:15.297-04:00Shmuel-
I hear.Shmuel-<br />I hear.The Rebbetzin's Husbandhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14977193945074906534noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7898782635470765614.post-54485983856908050142014-03-13T18:40:27.964-04:002014-03-13T18:40:27.964-04:00R' Micha-
Nicely put.
R' Mordechai-
Sad.R' Micha-<br />Nicely put.<br /><br />R' Mordechai-<br />Sad.The Rebbetzin's Husbandhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14977193945074906534noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7898782635470765614.post-64116433969868762812014-03-13T14:22:26.097-04:002014-03-13T14:22:26.097-04:00Some consider mashkeh to be a general cure-all or ...Some consider mashkeh to be a general cure-all or prerequisite to holiness every day. This can verge on addiction.RAMnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7898782635470765614.post-49526183191933049522014-03-12T13:57:12.212-04:002014-03-12T13:57:12.212-04:00Well put to the original post and this response. ...Well put to the original post and this response. Rav Micha's comment reminds me of an incident burned into my brain from about 8 or 10 years ago.<br />We went to a local shul for Purim, known for their drinking. Heck of thing to be known for, but I digress (only a little). There was much drinking and dancing before the Torah reading. I myself refuse to drink during davening on what I consider halachic grounds, but to each his own. We're dancing around when the rabbi's brother in law urges me to drink, and I politely refuse repeatedly. After some continued dancing and merriment, he says to me in all seriousness, " I CAN'T BELIEVE YOU'RE SO FREILECH WITHOUT MASHKEH!" That's when I knew there's a real problem out there, and it goes beyond my mere halachic objection to drinking during davening.<br /><br />A holy, very happy Purim to all!Mordechai Y. Scherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06774262478551329181noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7898782635470765614.post-75255887861075960692014-03-12T12:29:42.406-04:002014-03-12T12:29:42.406-04:00If one just reads and takes seriously the bi'u...If one just reads and takes seriously the bi'ur halachas about drinking at the Purim seuda, he'll have no problem. Also, assuming that one is drinking for the right reasons and acts responsibly, that is an excellent example for children, much better than "this stuff is so dangerous we don't dare touch it." I think that second attitude leads to irresponsible behavior by those who lack the desire or the discipline to be complete teetotalers.Shmuelnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7898782635470765614.post-55737093202664888822014-03-12T05:32:57.523-04:002014-03-12T05:32:57.523-04:00Not the same message, but I think it's a usefu...Not the same message, but I think it's a useful rule of thumb:<br /><br />If you're enjoying a drink because it's Purim, you're doing a mitzvah;<br />but if you're enjoying Purim because it's a license to drink -- don't.micha bergerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11612144735431285113noreply@blogger.com